Technology Has Created A New Form of Child Abuse

balding-old-man-haircut-russell-fredric-fbThere seems to be a new internet trend involving parents recording disciplinary actions carried out on their children as they record it.  I’ve been surfing the net a long time and the one thing I can tell you is that well over half of what you parents are out here recording can land and has landed many of you in jail.  Examples of this range from parents forcing their children to admit lies they may have told on social media, to parents actually recording themselves dishing out physical punishments that sometimes are downright brutal and criminal in nature.

However, more disturbing than the acts in the video is the real agenda behind the video.  Sure, we all want to go viral.  That would be so cool.  And yes, you might make a little money from it if you marketed the video right.  But that kind of notoriety is life changing.  And when you put yourself out there like that, you have to be prepared to endure the downright evilness on the internet too.  Now if you want to make that decision for yourself, then fine, but to make that decision for your children is totally different.  And when you do put your children out into the World Wide Web, then you also need to be prepared to have your parenting style judged.  Because it’s going to be out there for the world to see.

Here’s an example:

(The video has been removed because Amanda Grant closed her Facebook account and took the video down from public view.  Obviously, after she read this blog post, still a great move mom.  I’ll still leave my words up for other parents to read and be inspired by.)

The child in this video was coaching her mother with the language and body language of an adult because the mother was crying over her deadbeat father.   Deadbeat Dads are a dime a dozen, but why is her mother allowing her to see what the deadbeat does on Facebook?  And whether or not he sends child support is never the concern of a child.  If it was, when the judge ordered it, he would have consulted the child too.  As parents, it is our ultimate responsibility to provide for our children with no excuses.  That includes their father being a deadbeat.  If he doesn’t want to be in your child’s life, do not become a weak woman in your child’s eyes just to prove what a deadbeat he really is.  How your children see you for the rest of their lives is what will ultimately develop the character into which they will become.  We are responsible for everything they hear, see, learn, and experience.  One parent shirking of their responsibilities is not a golden ticket for the other parent to do the same.  Take some responsibility.  If your kid is talking like THOT at age 7, she will be a THOT at age 17.  And then you want to post all of your dysfunction on the internet for the world to see and for her to have to spend the rest of her life living down.  Let’s face it, this woman didn’t need a pep talk.  She needs internet fame and she pimped out her daughter to get it.

And then this disgrace here:  

Thanks for letting the world know your 12-year-old step son is failing school and smoking weed.  I hardly think the problem is surface in nature and I hardly think that internet shaming him by shaving his head is going to solve that deep-rooted problem on your hands.  Now not only have you created a bigger monster by making him famous, you’ve failed to get him help at a critical stage in life.

Come on parents.  Discipline should never be a public act.  Viral humiliation can break children and scar them for life.  It’s not like the humiliation we experienced when our parents came up to the school and made a spectacle.  Viral humiliation destroys lives because the whole world watches it over and over again.  Before you hit upload, think about how this exposure could change your child for life.


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3 Responses to Technology Has Created A New Form of Child Abuse

  1. aviets says:

    Another point for this argument: This kind of act is the perfect way to completely destroy any kind of relationship with your child. Of course, if you’re inclined to post this sort of thing I would guess that train already left the station.-Amy at

    • raisinemreal says:

      I grew up in an abusive home, and I honestly feel that 25-30 years ago, this would have been something my mother would have done. I can only imagine what it’s like in some of these parents homes. Definitely food for thought.

  2. Pingback: Technology Has Created A New Form of Child Abuse | D.E. Cantor

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